“And that’s where I met my current boyfriend, a Nepalese man. It’s hard for us to speak because of the language barrier but that’s not a problem for us.”
“I still keep my relationship with my boyfriend as a secret from my parents. Because I’m afraid they can not accept my decision to have a relationship with a non-Indonesian man. A few years before I came to Malaysia, I was paired with a man from my hometown and I refused to accept his proposal. I feel that I am still young and many challenges awaits me. My mother was quite disappointed with my decision and I promised myself that I will prove to them that I could afford to bear my own life. Therefore, I decided to work in Malaysia.
At first I thought it is easy to get a good job in Malaysia but in fact, it is so hard to get a good job, good pay and an understanding employer. I was being hired to work in a mini grocery store and I am grateful to have a very understanding employer. And that’s where I met my current boyfriend, a Nepalese man. It’s hard for us to speak because of the language barrier but that’s not a problem for us. He and I work together at the grocery store and we have a lot in common including finding a source of living for our family in our hometown.
I still didn’t think to get married even though my boyfriend proposed me to be his wife. I was worried about the condition of my mom and dad in the village. Maybe they are not sure of my decision to get married or they think that the candidate I choose is not suitable to be their son-in-law. There are still many things that I must do before I get married. I still have a dream to have some money to go home and build my own company like my current employer. “
Juliana, 29 years old, East Java